God's Counsel to the Family

Notice this comment that Paul makes to Timothy:

2Ti 1:5
When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also.

Timothy was evidently a third generation Christian, God blesses the work of mothers.
I am so thankful for Christian mothers. So thankful that I woulkd like to encourage the rest of the family to pull together in this work of the Family

The Family

God designs that the family of earth shall be a symbol of the family in heaven, Christian homes, established and conducted in accordance with God’s plan, are among His most effective agencies for the formation of Christian character and for the advancement of His work.

Duty Of Husband

Gen. 2:24. Leave father and mother for wife.

Deut. 13:6-8. Husband should never allow his wife to turn him from God.

Deut. 24:5. First year of married life, husband should remain at home and “cheer” up his wife.”

Prov. 5:18. Rejoice with his wife.

Eccl. 9:9. Live joyfully with her.

Eph. 5:25:33. “Love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it.”

Col. 3:19. Be not bitter against them.

Prov. 31:28. Commend and praise.

1 Peter 3:7. Honor the wife.

Mal. 2:14, 15. God is witness if any deal treacherously with their wives.

Matt. 19:3-9. One reason for separation.

1 Cor. 7:12-16. Convert wife by godly life.

The man who lives up to God’s requirements will have a happy home. He can kneel with his wife and together their prayers will ascend unhindered to the throne of grace.

Duty Of Wife

Gen. 3:6, 17-24. The wife should never, like Eve, ask her husband to disobey God.

Prov. 12:4. A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband.

Eph. 5:23. Husband the head of the wife.

Eph. 5:33. Wife reverence the husband.

Titus 2:4, 5. Love and obey the husband.

Col. 3:18. “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as it is fit in the Lord.”
If a husband commands a wife to disobey God, then obedience could not be fit in the Lord.

Prov. 19:13; 21:9, margin. A contentious wife makes and unhappy home.

Prov. 21:19, margin. Better dwell in the desert than with such a woman.

Prov. 31:10-12, 26. A husband can safely trust a virtuous woman who speaks kindly.

1 Cor. 7:10, 11. “Let not the wife depart from her husband.”

Rom 7:2, 3. The wife bound to her husband as long as he lives.

Mark 10:12. If the wife leaves her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.

1 Cor. 7:13, 16. Godly life may win unbelieving husband.
If every young woman was taught these principles by her parents, she would be careful to select for a husband a man she could reverence and obey. God takes the marriage relation to represent the connection between Himself and His people.
Eph. 5:31-33; Jer. 3:14; Hosea 2:19, 20; Jer. 31:32.

Duty Of Parents To Their Children

Titus 2:4. Love them.

Matt. 19:13, 14. Bring to Christ.

Prov. 22:6; Eph. 6:4. Train for God.

Deut. 4:9. Isa. 38:19. Instruct in God’s word.

Joel 1:3. Tell of God’s judgment.

Ex. 10:2; Ps. 78:4. Of God’s work.

Deut. 32:46. Command them to obey God.

Gen. 48:15. Bless them.

Ps. 103:13. Pity them.

Job 42:15; 2 Cor. 12:14; 1 Tim. 5:8. Provide for them.

1 Tim. 3:4, 12. Rule them.

Prov. 13:24; 19:18; 23:13; 29:17; Heb. 12:7. Correct them.

Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21. Do not provoke them.

Gen. 24:1-4; 28:1, 2. Not to make unholy connections for them.

Parental Control

Ps. 127:3. “Children are an heritage of the Lord.”

Ex. 2:9. God offers wages to every parent just as surely as Pharaoh’s daughter did to the mother of Moses.

Prov. 29:17; 10:1. Rest and delight of soul paid the faithful parent.

Prov. 29:15; 17:25; 15:20. Shame, contempt and bitterness, are the wages of the parents that fail to properly train their children.

Prov. 29:15; 22:15. No child naturally good.

1 Sam. 3:11-14. Restrain the child.

Prov. 31:26-28. Govern by law of kindness.

Prov. 19:18. Do not wait until it is too late to control the child.

Prov. 20:11. Every child reveals its character.

Prov. 23:13, 14. Do not withhold correction.

Prov. 13:24. True love will control.

Prov. 29:22. To strike a child in anger stirs up strife.

Prov. 25:28. Without self-control no one can properly train others.

Prov. 16:32. Self-control of great value.

Result Of Wrong Training

1 Sam. 2:27-34. The priesthood was taken from the family of Eli because he failed to control his children.

1 Sam. 2:23-25. Eli reported his sons for their wrong course; but reproof alone is not sufficient.

1 Sam. 3:13. Parents must “restrain” and control their children as well as reprove the.

1 Sam. 2:29. It is dishonoring to God for parents to allow their children to grow
up disobedient.

Prov. 29:15. Disobedient children bring their parents to shame.

1 Sam. 8:1-5. The disobedience of Samuel’s sons caused the office of judge to pass from Samuel’s family.

2 Kings 19:37. Uncontrolled children will even slay their parents.

Prov. 17:25. A “foolish son” brings grief and bitterness to parents.

Result Of Good Training

1 Sam. 3:19. The Lord is with good children.

2 Tim. 3:15. They are acquainted with the Scriptures.

Prov. 28:7. A wise son obeys the law of God.

Col. 3:20. God is well pleased with obedient children.

Acts 2:39. They share in the promises of God.

Eph. 6:2. A blessing is pronounced upon good children.

Gen 46:29. A good son will never be ashamed to love and caress his parents.

Prov. 13:1. A wise son will heed the instruction of his parents.

Prov. 23:22. Parents in old age will be treated with respect by good children.

Job 32:6, 7. One of judgment will recognize age and experience.

Heb. 12:9. The respect and reverence paid to earthly parents is a reminder of the reverence due the Lord.

Home Influences

Ps. 101:7. Deceitful and wicked people should not be kept in the house.

1 Cor. 15:33. You can not keep evil people in your family without their exerting an evil influence over your children.

1 Cor. 5:6. A little leaven leaveneth the whole lump.

Eph. 6:4. Parents should not provoke their children.

Col. 3:21. Should not discourage them.

Prov. 22:6. Children should be trained.

1 Tim. 3:4, 5. One that does not control his own family can not be trusted to manage the things of God.

Titus 1:6, 7. The children of a bishop should be above reproach.

1 Tim. 3:12. A deacon should control his family.

Gen 18:17-19. God can trust a man that command his children and his household.

2 Cor. 12:14. Parents should provide for their children.

1 Tim. 5:8. Every Christian should supply the needs of his family.

Education In The Homes

Deut. 6:7-9. Teach diligently. The word of God should be the topic of daily conversation in the home and out of it.

Deut. 4:9-13. Teach the children about the giving of the law.

2 Tim. 3:15. A knowledge of the word of God will give wisdom.

2 Tim. 3:16, 17. Such knowledge will prepare a man for every good work.

2 Tim. 1:5. Often when a mother was faithful in teaching her children, God mentioned her name.

1 Tim. 4:12. Six things in which the young who are properly taught will be an example.

Esther 2:20. Children properly educated will obey their parents after they are grown.

Gen. 45:7, 8. Children, educated after God’s plan, can be sent as foreign missionaries at an early age.

Joshua 4:6, 7. Children should be taught by the objects around them.

Ex. 12:25-27. Taught by object-lessons.

Ex. 13:8. Taught by customs.

1 Tim. 1:4. Fictitious reading should be discarded.

1 Tim. 4:7. Refuse profane writing.

1 Tim. 6:20. Shun pseudo science, falsely so called science.

Deut. 11:19-21. Teaching the word of God in the home as God directs, will make the home “as the days of heaven upon earth.”